Count your successes

 Vilma Komulainen

You know the memories Facebook kindly offers you every now and then? I think they are pretty much the best thing it offers nowadays. A blast from the past, from a time when people still posted things of Facebook.

Most of these memories make me giggle thinking of the times when life’s stress factors were limited to choosing the perfect party outfit for Saturday’s dancefloor sessions and getting up early for an 8 am lecture. 

But they also make me think of how much has changed for the better. How much has happened during this journey. And at the same time - how much there still is to discover.

 2009. A picture I had named “Party all the time”. Indeed.

2009. A picture I had named “Party all the time”. Indeed.

 2012. At a pier in Blackpool. Exchange studies in England was my first time to live abroad and the first time I had to come out of my safe little home bubble in Turku.

2012. At a pier in Blackpool. Exchange studies in England was my first time to live abroad and the first time I had to come out of my safe little home bubble in Turku.

I encourage you to stop for these moments for a little while. Looking at that picture and thinking of your reality during that period of life. What has changed since then? What have you learned? What have you gained?

People say you should count your blessings. I like to say you should count your successes.

Things rarely just occur. You made certain choices that led you here - whether they were small or big. 

Often it is hard to see those choices clearly in the moment they happen. But as time passes, it’s easier to see the bigger picture. How one thing led to another.

 2014. I used to be a beauty vlogger for a few years. How unaware was I at this point that this funny little hobby actually ended up having a rather big impact on my career choices years after.

2014. I used to be a beauty vlogger for a few years. How unaware was I at this point that this funny little hobby actually ended up having a rather big impact on my career choices years after.

Because all our experiences are ephemeral. I like to think that is rather comforting. The heartaches, the difficult decisions, the moments of insecurity and uncertainty. They all pass.

And after they have passed it is one of the greatest feelings in the world to see how you evolved. 

 2015. My first apartment in Stockholm and the day I moved to Sweden. By far one of the best decisions i have made.

2015. My first apartment in Stockholm and the day I moved to Sweden. By far one of the best decisions i have made.

2017. One of the last weeks in Lund working with our Master’s thesis.

It is easy to focus on what you do not have at the moment, what is missing from your ideal life. But think of your path of the last five or ten years and shift your focus on how much you actually have and know compared to that time in the past.

And be proud - it is you who made those things happen. No one else.

❤︎ Vilma